Have you ever felt like you had to hide who you were to appease the people (or person) around you? It’s the most uncomfortable thing in the world. The feeling that you can’t say what you want or do what you want because you want to keep someone else happy is so aggravating. It can be anything from pretending that you don’t like a song just because the other person doesn’t like it, to keeping your true feelings locked away due to the fear of how someone might react to it. It’s just so uncomfortable to feel like you can’t be yourself.
I’ve been in many situations where I felt like I had to pretend to be someone I’m not just to keep a person happy. I felt like I had to act like I liked everything that they liked just so that they would be happy. I had to keep all of my true feelings and desires hidden because when I tried to release them, the other person received it in such a negative way, that in almost every situation, it would lead to a fight. I felt so uncomfortable. It got to the point that I started to alter myself for the other person, so that they would accept me. That was SO wrong! I just wanted to be understood for who I was. It would make me so angry that I couldn’t get that from this person, even though we had such a close relationship with each other; but if you really think about it, the relationship wasn’t close at all if I had to jump through all of these hoops for that person.
Why am I writing this? Well it’s quite simple. I’m tired of pretending to be someone I’m not, and keeping my thoughts and feelings to myself. No one should ever have to go through something so demeaning. From this moment on, I’ve decided to focus on what I want FIRST and everyone else SECOND. I’ve put other people’s feelings ahead of mine for far too long and I’m done with it. This isn’t being said out of anger. It’s being said out of a desire for a better and richer life. Not monetary riches, but rich in value and happiness.
I strongly encourage you to do the same. Whoever I’m speaking to at this moment, I want you to know that if you have to hide your true self, then the person that you are trying to impress will never be satisfied. The moment that you begin to change yourself for someone else, you’ll find that you’ll be doing all of the changing and the other person will be reaping all of the benefits. You were designed for much more than that. You deserve much better.
One of the saddest moments of a person’s life is when they look back and realize that they spent their entire life making other people happy, when they weren’t happy themselves. It’s not selfish to make sure that you are satisfied with life BEFORE everyone else is. It’s how life is supposed to be. If a person can’t put up with who you truly are, then they are unworthy of your love and presence. Stay true to yourself and eventually, you’ll find yourself around people that appreciate
the original YOU!
“This above all: to thine own self be true, and it must follow, as the night the day, thou canst not then be false to any man.”
–William Shakespeare “Hamlet”