Be True To Yourself

Have you ever felt like you had to hide who you were to appease the people (or person) around you? It’s the most uncomfortable thing in the world. The feeling that you can’t say what you want or do what you want because you want to keep someone else happy is so aggravating. It can be anything from pretending that you don’t like a song just because the other person doesn’t like it, to keeping your true feelings locked away due to the fear of how someone might react to black-sad-manit. It’s just so uncomfortable to feel like you can’t be yourself.

I’ve been in many situations where I felt like I had to pretend to be someone I’m not just to keep a person happy. I felt like I had to act like I liked everything that they liked just so that they would be happy. I had to keep all of my true feelings and desires hidden because when I tried to 5ada2d395ad8a9a03f3048fa1053432frelease them, the other person received it in such a negative way, that in almost every situation, it would lead to a fight. I felt so uncomfortable. It got to the point that I started to alter myself for the other person, so that they would accept me. That was SO wrong! I just wanted to be understood for who I was. It would make me so angry that I couldn’t get that from this person, even though we had such a close relationship with each other; but if you really think about it, the relationship wasn’t close at all if I had to jump through all of these hoops for that person.

Why am I writing this? Well it’s quite simple. I’m tired of pretending to be someone I’m not, and keeping my thoughts and feelings to myself. No one should ever have to go through something so demeaning. From this moment on, I’ve decided to focus on what I want FIRST and everyone else SECOND. I’ve put other people’s feelings ahead of mine for far too long and I’m done with it. This isn’t being said out of anger. It’s being said out of a desire for a better and richer life. Not monetary riches, but rich in value and happiness.

Be-Yourself.-No-one-can-ever-say-you-are-doing-it-wrong.-Charles-Schultz-quote-cartoonI strongly encourage you to do the same. Whoever I’m speaking to at this moment, I want you to know that if you have to hide your true self, then the person that you are trying to impress will never be satisfied. The moment that you begin to change yourself for someone else, you’ll find that you’ll be doing all of the changing and the other person will be reaping all of the benefits. You were designed for much more than that. You deserve much better.

One of the saddest moments of a person’s life is when they look back and realize that they spent their entire life making other people happy, when they weren’t happy themselves. It’s not selfish to make sure that you are satisfied with life BEFORE everyone else is. It’s how life is supposed to be. If a person can’t put up with who you truly are, then they are unworthy of your love and presence. Stay true to yourself and eventually, you’ll find yourself around people that appreciate
the original YOU!

“This above all: to thine own self be true, and it must follow, as the night the day, thou canst not then be false to any man.”

William Shakespeare “Hamlet”


Mood Music


starloversWhen you get the chance to enjoy the beauty of your husband, wife, or lover; what’s playing on your radio? Studies have shown that sexual pleasure is intensified when making love while music is playing. So what song gets you in the mood? Back in the 70’s and 80’s the term “baby making music” was the description of any song that could be considered ‘mood music’ or songs that heightened sexual desire and performance.

Many people from the older generations say that today’s music isn’t designed to get you in the mood even though the topic is sexual. To a degree, I can say that I feel that it’s true. I can’t think of many songs that actually make me want to stop and make love to mypjLovers lady. Being beaten over the head with sexual content isn’t sexy. It’s quite annoying in all honesty. There’s a song out right now called “You Belong To Somebody Else” by Jacquees & DeJ Loaf, and it’s literally about two people that want to get freaky even though they’re in a relationship with someone else. Its quite sad to see that the act of cheating on your lover is now being glorified. It’s even worse that people think that this song is sexy. I would NEVER play this song when I want to get into bed with my woman. When I want to make love to my queen, I want to play something that can remind her of just how much I love her and how my number ONE priority of the moment is to bring her pleasure. Notice I referred to her as my queen, because that’s who she is to me. She’s not someone who I just want to ‘smash’ or ‘hit that’ with.

16379d60f18a9a4dedc62384f6c4f345Remember Never Too Much by Luther Vandross? Songs like that are what I look for. A song that expresses love and respect for the woman. Back in the day, songs about love were actually about LOVE not just sex. I mean the sexual attraction was implied but somewhere down the line, sex has become more important in music and for some reason, songs that are obviously about sex don’t make me want sex… it makes me want to skip to the next song. Don’t get me wrong, there are a few songs of the time that can really express love in a more human-like manor instead of catering to horny animal-like beasts. Take Bloom by the Paper Kites. That’s a song about real admiration and adoration for a person. That’s what I want to be playing in the background. That’s the type of mood that I want to set. I don’t want to play porn music.

If you can be honest, tell me what song you would want playing when you’re making love? Is it a slow jam or a beautiful ballad? Is it a song that makes you want to hump like rabbits? What takes you to the place of pleasure?

Top 5 Songs of The 90’s

Nothing can be said about this time period other that the fact that it is the greatest time period for music and television. I may be partial to this time period because I’m a 90’s baby, but either way, I LOVE THE 90’s!

5. Sex and Candy by Marcy Playground

I love this song because it’s about two of my favorite things (sex and candy). No, really, I love this song because it’s such an easy song to fade away to (and NO I do not mean smoking weed). I love the mellow rock sound. It’s the perfect song to relax to or even chill with that “special someone”.


4. It Was A Good Day” by Ice Cube

Ice Cube is one of my favorite rap artists of all time! It Was A Good Day is one of my favorite songs of his and when I want to pump myself up I can always play this song and go out for a jog… which is exactly what I will do later on today.


3. I’ll Make Love To You by Boys II Men

You have no idea how many babies were made to this song. Odds are, if you are 18 years or younger, you probably wouldn’t be here if it wasn’t for this song. If you have ever been in need of a song to make love to, you can’t go wrong with a little Boys II Men.


2. This is How We Do It by Montell Jordan

This is one of the few songs that Montell made before he became a minister and started his own church. Nowadays, he makes gospel music. This has always been a great party song and always will be. I heard a remake of the song at the mall a few weeks ago, and no matter how hard they try, it could NEVER be better than the original!


1. Smells Like Teen Spirit by Nirvana

This is my absolute favorite song from the 90’s. No matter how many songs I can lose my mind to, this will always be my #1 favorite. Anytime I hear this song on the radio my face lights up and it takes everything in me not to go insane for 4 minutes and 30 seconds.


AS A BONUS… I’ve included my top 5 favorite TV shows from the 90’s. If you don’t see any of your favorite songs or shows from the 90’s, share your favorites in the comment section of this post.

5. Hey Arnold

4. Home Improvement

3. Family Matters

2. The Fresh Prince of Bel-Air

1. The Rugrats





I was recently put onto this new band called AJR. Okay, maybe not new but hey, they’re new to me. I got a chance to hear some of their music and instantly got attached to them. Since I started a new job recently, I’ve been pretty much sleeping when I’m not working. In the morning, I need some music to wake me up and get me ready for the day. Every morning for the past week, that song has been AJR’s song “Weak”. Of course they’re more of their songs on my playlist, but if I could recommend any of their songs to you, it would be Weak. Check it out and see if you like it.


Sharing Your Opinions

Sharing your opinions on life and music is one of the most important social activities you could ever participate in. It shows who you are as a person and what you like and don’t likeangry-child-boy.jpg (obviously). It’s an amazing feeling to be heard. Everyone wants to be heard and understood. But what happens when someone doesn’t agree with your opinion? Does that mean that they don’t care about you and what you stand for? Does it mean that they don’t ever want to hear your opinion ever again? Maybe. It depends on the situation.

One of the worst things that you could ever do is try to force your views and opinions onto someone else. Sharing your
opinion doesn’t mean that you have to beat someone over their head with it. If you casually share your thoughts with someone, that’s fine. Me personally, I love to hear opinions, especially about music. But I don’t like when someone shares their opinion and gets upset with me if I don’t necessarily agree with it. It’s not a reflection on my relationship with the person. It is simply my opinion being
returned. I would never want anyone to feel as though they couldn’t tell me their views and opinions.

When someone gets angry with you because you don’t agree with them, what are you supposed to do? This is an area that I struggle with myself. I’ll admit that I get a little offended when someone disagrees or completely dismisses my opinion. Is that okay, though? When I look at it from the other side, being the person that disagrees with the opinion, I find that people that get angry because of a disagreement can be rather annoying. Everyone doesn’t have to agree with each other, no matter how close they are. Everyone having different opinions is a huge part of what makes the human race… well… human-y.

You can disagree with someone and still be the best of friends. Prime example: I was at work the other day and the topic of politics came up, and clingy-friend-main.jpgas you could imagine, EVERYONE had a lot to say about certain things. When I shared my opinion, my friend Ahmad COMPLETELY disagreed with me. His views were so different than mine that for a
moment, I felt like I didn’t want to be around him anymore, but after that moment I realized that it was just his opinion and that it shouldn’t affect our friendship.

Don’t take it personal that someone doesn’t agree with you. I can love you with all my heart and soul and still not agree with your opinion all of the time. It’s not a bad thing.

So whats the big “Music4Lyfe” takeaway from this? Its simple, really. Don’t let ANYONE or ANYTHING stop you from sharing your opinion. Your voice matters… just don’t try to force your opinion on anyone else. That’s where it gets annoying.

As always, I welcome and appreciate the opinions of EACH AND EVERY ONE of you! Thank you so much for following my blog. I look forward to growing with you!


Different Sound… Same Content

Have you ever noticed that no matter how much music sounds have changed through the years, one topic will always be present? That’s love. People say that love is dying in the world, but it is actually still here. Since the beginning of time, the most popular songs were about love and relationships. No matter how much you try to run from it, love is everywhere. Believe me, I know. I’ve tried to literally RUN from someone I love and no matter what happened, I always found my way back to her. It’s pretty much the same with music. No matter how hardcore you try to be, you can’t get away from love.

Then on the other hand, you have artists that pretty much only sing about love… like John Legend. I don’t know an album of his that exists that doesn’t have at least 3 love songs. I can imagine that his success has a lot to do with his embrace of the concept that love is all around us.

If you look back to the music that was out back in the 50’s and 60’s especially, almost all of the music was about love… except for that one song about the little white duck swimming in the water (my favorite nursery rhyme). ANYWAYS, I think that it’s important to remember that the world wants to feel love. Everyone around you, no matter how angry or grumpy they may be, wants to feel love. That’s why they turn to songs that are about love. Everyone wants love. It’s not a dying trend. It never will be. There will never come a time when you will not hear a single song about love… unless you just don’t listen to music for a really long period of time.

If you are in need of some songs about love, I’d love to refer you to one of my very first posts, in which I listed some of my favorite love songs.

Make Your Day Great!

I’m going to ask you a question you’ve probably been asked at least a billion times before. How was your day, today? Believe it or not, the answer to that question is often “okay” or “fine”. It’s not often that you ask someone that question and their face lights up and they say “It was great”. Why is that? Well, there’s a lot of factors that weigh in to the end result. The most important one is the START!

How do you start your day? Does it start with an obnoxious alarm clock reminding you that you need to get dressed and be on your way to a job you really don’t want to go to? Does it start with an early morning text from your boyfriend or girlfriend, wondering if you’re awake so they can tell you all about that strange dream they had where they were being chased by a lion, on the set of Sesame Street (that was an actual dream of mine… don’t ask why)?

I’ve recently embraced the art of commanding my morning. For those of you who don’t know what that is, it’s when you wake up and start your day doing as much as you possibly can to ensure that you have a great day. I’m usually jolted out of a strange dream by early morning text messages or screaming family members trying to find their wallet so they can go to the grocery store. So instead of trying to stay sleep as long as I can, I accept that the day has officially begun. I wake up, and turn on my favorite ‘morning’ song, Oh What A Beautiful Morning by Ray Charles. I make myself a cup of tea and listen to the lyrics and smile. I may not know what the day has in store for me, but I owe it to myself to say “It’s going to be great!”
Why do I do this? It’s simple. If you start your day in happiness, you’re already happy. You don’t have to wait for something or someone to come along and make you happy. If you start your day at the top, it’ll take a lot to bring you all the way down to the bottom. If you start at the bottom, more than likely, you’re going to end at the bottom.

If you always start your day thinking about all of the bills that you have to pay or some other stressful crap like that, you’ll make it pretty hard to enjoy yourself. If you start on a positive imagesnote, noticing how beautiful the sun is when it shines on the flowers outside, or how your dog is standing on a chair holding a slice of pizza, then your day will be amazing because you’ll be thinking about that all day long. You deserve to have the best day possible. Don’t let the world around you dictate how you live. You are the captain of your own ship. Take control and say “today WILL BE a good day!”